Nearly one in four American couples sleep in separate bedrooms or beds, the National Sleep Foundation reported in a 2005 survey. Recent studies in England and Japan have found similar results. Over the course of 30 plus years marriage, my wife would never accepts my snoring as an evening serenade. As a result, I became very familiar with the guest bedroom. “A happy wife…a happy life.”
In “Married, but Sleeping Alone” Bruce Feiler discusses the increasingly common trend of married couples choosing to sleep in separate beds or even separate bedrooms. Feiler explains that this trend is due to a variety of reasons, including snoring, apnea, restless leg syndrome, and technology. He argues that while the intrusion of technology and other factors can make the bedroom a less appealing place to sleep, it is also one of the last bastions of togetherness in American relationships. Feiler suggests a “Save the Sheets” campaign to encourage couples to seek treatment for conditions that impair their sleep and to highlight the benefits of co-sleeping.
New York Times-Bruce Feiler